Yes even my relationship is visited by conflict...and learning how do deal with it is a skill that is everyone's responsibility to learn. Conflict is a fact of life. The sooner we all accept this fact the easier it will be to deal with.
So...once you accept that conflict is a reality of having and being in relationships you can begin to look at conflict from different than normal perspectives.
Most see interpersonal conflict as something existing between two people. This old view point makes the other person the problem. The communication between two people who are locked in a view point that there is something wrong with the other person is bound to illicit defensiveness, anger, hostility and stubbornness.
My suggestion is to simply change the "looking" at the problem by simply instead of standing across from your partner stand next to him and "see" the problem as something external that you both can work toward resolving.
Ok...so lets look at an example...actually, if you have an example send it to me and I will use it as an illustration in the blog!
Could be anything, Money, sex, family etc...
you can post it here or send it to me at eric@partners4solutions.com
Good evening when can i call it quit? well like you said some rain must fall what can I do when my partner just will not call me or even talk to me about the problem we live together and at this moment she is away at work.While Im home yes I do work but just recently I just felt ill I had surgery and now have seizures she was very supportive at first but it has change before I try to talk to her but just nasty words came out and told me that she wants ot the relationship and it all started cause I was joking about her breath and it excalated to Im done always thinking about your feeling wish is not true she could be nasty at time with me but I just let it cause I hate the argument ans fights. what can I do.And we are married.
Posted by: Kembly Soto Wright | April 18, 2010 at 06:20 PM