NO YOU CAN'T!
I get this question at least once a week! I have said it before and I will say it again!...you can't do both. Dating for a life partner requires much more frontal lobe activity than dating for fun!
There is another reason why it is so important...
Doing both essentially means that if you find what you are looking for you will switch intentions. However that is not how it works...as you get more attached to someone, you will be setting in motion bio chemistry and not have your wits about you to make data based evaluations.
You also come out of an active conscious position into a reactive unconscious one.
Don't do both! do one or the other....
Happy dating!
How do I know what page my date is on? I'm interested in dating for fun - but I get the sense that my partner is more interested in the long term. Should I ask or would that seem scary? Especially if he's not.
Posted by: ABM | July 25, 2005 at 01:40 PM
In order for you to successfully date you need to always broadcast your boundaries...if you are dating for fun, your dates need to know that.
That being said, you can't always control how they take it.
If you would like to get clear on what dating for fun is all about....take the free e course on the home page...
Many blessings to your dating success!
Posted by: Dr. Eric | July 29, 2005 at 12:12 PM
Can you date one person with a fun intention and another person with a life partner intention? I mean, as long as you decide BEFORE you date that person what your intention is, isnt it ok?
Posted by: dave | November 30, 2007 at 04:41 PM
NO NO NO>>>>>
That being said, I always recommend that people do one or the other. In this way, the choice to date for a life partner is yours and in conscious.
Working on two goals in the same context usually does not work!
Hope this helps.
Posted by: Dr. Eric | December 03, 2007 at 02:27 PM