Years ago, in my bathroom, I had a little "Ziggy" drawing. You remember ziggy don't you? Above him read the following:
Love makes the lonelies go away!
A friend and therapy mentor of mind read it and came out of the bathroom and said to me, "The reverse is true you know, the lonelies make the love go away."
If you are not in a relationship, it is not a crime, a punishment or the worst thing in your life and if you are sitting around bemoaning the fact to anyone who will listen, then you probably won't get into one either.
If your single, your goal is to love what is and be happy. A relationship is not the solution to being an unhappy single person!
We have all been there....our eyes meet and begins the dance of cruising. Presto, your in bed having amazing hot sex. Cuddling follows and you start fantasizing about your future with your man.
You an your new found friend are in a complete state of HYPNOSIS! Especially if it was good sex.
So whats the problem, you may ask....I'll tell you...
When you have good sex with a person on a first date you build very powerful and strong associations and identifications with the person you had sex with. Your body and brain are flooded with feel good chemicals and you naturally associate those feelings with that person.
Which means that your judgment and ability to evaluate who this person is and if this person is really the right person for you.
While sex is a very good way of getting to know someone, I would gently suggest you leave it for the 3rd date.
First lets take it out of this negative frame and put it in plain terms. Your boy friend is seeking something( and I will get to this in a second) out side of your relationship. The reason for this is that if you call it cheating you will find your self in a victim role and not be able to take a clear course of action.
1. Feels lonely and is seeking some attention. (is looking for more emotional intimacy) 2. Separates sex from love and has a sexual appetite he can not fulfill at home. 3. Is mad at you because he perceives himself rejected in some way by you.
If you don't take your boy friends behavior just personally you will be able to open up a dialog to greater understanding and mutual choice making.
Take the time to consider how your relationship is going and see if you and your are bringing the best to it!
Many of you know, along with my work as a coach, I am also a hypnotherapist. A client of mine who was seeing me to overcome dating shyness (specifically, the inability to start up a conversation with a stranger) We cleared this up in a session and he was on his way.
Then he sent me an email to tell me the good news and how effective it has been...he also included this video from you tube.....I was shocked, surprised and delighted. The use of hypnosis for increased sexual excitation, release from inhibition, premature ejaculation and even sustained erection is well documented but this video is just plain fun and erotic!
It touches a deep part of all of us around control and being controlled and while this is not part of my private practice work it certainly can be a part of yours.
While hypnosis may look like mind control, the hypnotist has very little to do with it. All Hypnosis is self-hypnosis, the hypnotist is merely a guide. You have to want to be hypnotized. So that begs the question then, what exactly is hypnosis. Well, if you have ever been to a horror movie and found that you got scared you were in hypnosis, I mean...you knew you were in a theater, you knew that nothing was actually going to happen to you and yet, your brain responded as though it was all real.
Enjoy the video and remember the subject in this video is doing exactly what the subject wants to do!
Finding Mr. is often a challenging issue for many. If it is for you, then you will really want to pay attention to this post.
While the it may seem that the pickins are slim, that is a myth. The truth more likely about you and what you are projecting. This is not to say that it is your fault. Rather I want to you with more information so that you can make your dating more successful.
The core issue here is that many project availabilityandNOTattainability.
Keep your eye open for further posts about this very crucial subject!
It's time to call it what it is and stop trying to make us different and separate!
As a current resident of New Jersey, I was quite excited and waited with breath that is baited, what the decision would be. Needless to say, the ruling is bitter sweet.
Mark Foley is the poster child for what not to do if your are gay and dating!
1. Don't pretend to be straight! 2. Don't pretend to protect under age minors! 3. Don't extol values that you are not willing to follow 4. Don't live a lie 5. Don't lie about your sexuality and then blame it all on alcohol abuse.
Ok..so here are 5 things that will make it hard for anyone to become a successful gay dater.
Oh and here is some more good news (he said sarcastically)
"Because Mark Foley has left the Congress, we don't have the authority to discipline him in any way. Rep. Howard Berman (D-Calif.)
Successful gay dating begins with 3 basic things:
1. Know yourself 2. Know what you want 3. Don't be a pussy: Go get what you want!
