Gay Dating Advice

Gay Dating Failure!

Mark Foley is the poster child for what not to do if your are gay and dating!

1. Don't pretend to be straight!
2. Don't pretend to protect under age minors!
3. Don't extol values that you are not willing to follow
4. Don't live a lie
5. Don't lie about your sexuality and then blame it all on alcohol abuse.

Ok..so here are 5 things that will make it hard for anyone to become a successful gay dater.

Oh and here is some more good news (he said sarcastically)

"Because Mark Foley has left the Congress, we don't have the authority to discipline him in any way.
Rep. Howard Berman (D-Calif.)

Successful  gay dating begins with 3 basic things:

1. Know yourself
2. Know what you want
3. Don't be a pussy: Go get what you want!

Gay Dating is hard enough

Gay dating is difficult enough to negotiate. 

Add in a mix of religiosity and presto...it can be made impossible.
A gay student at Bishop German High School says counselors have told her she can not attend the school's homecoming dance if she brings a female date.

Let's make this easier not harder!!!

How to get out of a bad relationship

Getting out of a bad relationship begins with knowing that you are in one!

It has been said that a relationship won't make you happy, however being in a bad one will make you miserable.

How do you know when you are in a bad relationship?

Here is how to tell.....

How do I find someone who knows what the f*&k he wants…

Let us address this question on two levels.
1. the emotion conveyed by the way the question is asked
2. the content of the question

Tragedy to triumph

This tip is for those who have lost someone for any reason, from being dumped to a partners demise.

While it could be argued that thier is a huge differnce between the two, there are many similarities if there was a large degree of attachment!

When we enter into a relationship and integrate our lives with another person.  As a result we are we are forever changed. Our worlds are intertwined and organized around the other...

Yearning vs. Longing

OK, I know that I am not the only one who gets these two muddled!

Have you ever lost a love?  I don't mean at a mall or anything, but really lost some one you were in love with, either by break up or some other form of ending?  Of course you have.  We all have and we all experience varying degrees of pain, anguish, and frustration. 

Clarity about what that anguish is about can help us turn it around, heal and move on...

Look Out Mr. Bush!

Speaking of the Bible...a tool for personal enlightenment, becomes ammunition against others in the hands of corrupt men and women!

My personal favorite chapter in the bible is a Ecclesiastes...the existential chapter of the bible.....

In Chapter and verse 9:13 called Wisdom better than folly, King Solomon tells a very important story....

I pledge alligence....

It was over 35 years ago and I can remember it perfectly....There I was in grade school saying the pledge of allegence....you might remember it to....

I pledge allegiance to the Flag of the United States of America,
and to the Republic for which it stands: one Nation under God, indivisible,
With Liberty and Justice for all.

Remember?

I have often made the statement that I stay out of politics...and for the most part I do...but today things are different....

Dating: The un-natural act!

Dating is the most un natural act of our species!

Meet someone, get to know them, ask them on a date, meet at a specified time and place to get together with the notion of getting to know them better and hopefully have fun.

A date is a socially contrived activity.  It is a construct of our own making to give the appearance of civility and try and do something more that operate with our penis!

9/11

4 years ago to the day, sitting in my old office on 23rd street off 7th, on a beautiful Monday morning, when I received a call from my friend Marc telling me to turn on the news;  The Twin Towers were callapsing....