Just wanted to spend a little time talking about the dating basics.
1. Intention first! What are you dating for? Recreation and fun or dating for a life partner.
So many times people try to do both at the same time.
This leads to a great deal of confusion and often emotional upset. Because of the way the brain works, love, lust, romance are often working together..even though sometimes they are not. If you are dating for fun and recreation...make sure you are dating a number of people. Having sex with one person, regularly can lead to attachment. And as I have stated before, as attraction(attachment) increases judgment decreases.
When this happens you are likely to forgo your non-negotiables and make compromises which can lead you down the road of serial monogamy and ultimately relationship failure.
When you decide that you want a life partner, my advice is that you make that choice conciously..and not because of the great guy you just make. I suggest you keep the locus of control where it belongs...with you!!!
Remember relationship failure often seems to stem from an initial compromise of your non-negotiables.
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I am having trouble with the "Gay Dating Rules". Like who calls who first, How long should I wait to call him back. He says he likes me, but how do I really know. I put myself out there, but do not lie to me. Just be honest. Do you have any help or advice.
Posted by: Frank | January 12, 2010 at 03:53 PM