When sex is the first date...

We have all been there....our eyes meet and begins the dance of cruising.  Presto, your in bed having amazing hot sex.  Cuddling follows and you start fantasizing about your future with your man.

You an your new found friend are in a complete state of HYPNOSIS! Especially if it was good sex.

So whats the problem, you may ask....I'll tell you...

When you have good sex with a person on a first date you build very powerful and strong associations and identifications with the person you had sex with.  Your body and brain are flooded with feel good chemicals and you naturally associate those feelings with that person.

Which means that your judgment and ability to evaluate who this person is and if this person is really the right person for you.   

While sex is a very good way of getting to know someone, I would gently suggest you leave it for the 3rd date.

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Comments

[David McCants]

Yeah i Agree but what happens after that third date and you have strong feeling for that person and that person tell you that there are some things that are still complicated in his life,but he still wants to be with you....I don't understand

[J]

I hear you this can become very confusing because u want to connect with soemone, however; in this lifestyle people are always hurt and have a wall up.....

[Steve Thompson]

How do you go about getting someone back who left you because you wouldn't give them space/time to think? I caught him chatting with other guys online about sex and possibly meeting. I had proof. When I confronted them about it, they packed their stuff while at work and left, now won't talk to me at all because I would not stop trying to get him to come back or to talk.