How to get out of a bad relationship

Getting out of a bad relationship begins with knowing that you are in one!

It has been said that a relationship won't make you happy, however being in a bad one will make you miserable.

How do you know when you are in a bad relationship?

Here is how to tell.....

whether you have been in a love coma for the past 6 months or you have been in a relationship for a long time there are some basics to return to in order to see if you are in a bad relationship.

The very first thing has to do with basic values and vision.

Values are basically you and your partners operating system.  It is from here that all choices are made.  You can get a clear picture of what someone values based on their behavior.

For instance...

Peter goes to the gym regularly, is always on a diet, is critical of what other people look like and only has pretty friends.  Can you guess what one of peters values is?  Now remember this is not a judgment about the value, this is simply a way of gathering data.

While on first glance it may appear that Peter values health..we can quickly see that in making our assessment that we must consider some other aspects of his behavior to get a clear picture..You see, Peter also drinks, does drugs and partys on the weekends.

From this we can extrapolate, fairly safely that Peter values beauty, good looks etc...and that health may not be right up there.

Now back to you.  Suppose we see that you also go to the gym regularly, but you also go to yoga classes, meditate, eat very healthy meals and even study cooking for health.  You don't drink, don't do drugs, and hate going to clubs...

Now on first glance we could call this a compatibility issue, however this is not about similar interests this is about conflicting values. 

You see conflicting values are the ultimate cause of relationships ending and are usually not changeable, nor should they be.

So before you leave your current relationship, do a quick values assessment and see where you are, this will take the emotionality out of it and bring some reality into it!